In order to make a morally just decision in the matter of the government licensing same-sex marriage, I feel obligated to examine the arguments against allowing such an institution before coming to a conclusion.
Part 3 – Socio-economic Arguments:
Same-sex couples can already have a marriage ceremony and then meet with a family planning attorney to address most legal issues, so they do not need government approval.
That is true. A good family planning attorney can overcome many of the objections raised by same-sex couples. Also, a marriage is only as good as the people entering the contract. Government recognition does nothing to improve a marriage’s chance of success. Heterosexual couples also have the option of bypassing the government and simply going the spiritual route. This actually has some significant benefits, especially when it comes to income taxes, qualifying for government welfare entitlements, and divorce. However, a government-licensed marriage does come with a lot of financial and social perks, and most heterosexual couples eventually want those in pocket. So do many same-sex couples.
Homosexuals really only want the financial rights that go with a government sanctioned marriage.
Well, yes, they do. But it is the government who has injected financial incentives and penalties into the marriage contract. To say that same-sex couples had utterly no desire to enjoy the spiritual benefits and responsibilities that come from marriage before the U.S. Government started adding monetized benefits to marriage is really quite dehumanizing, as though they are not capable of love. It is the government that created this dynamic. If we were able to remove that dynamic, remove all monetized benefits and penalties that are legislated into heterosexual marriage, I suspect the drive for secular recognition of same-sex marriage would hardly lessen. Frankly, there will never be a test to this theory. Uncle Sam will never give up control of the marriage contract. Without a valid test, it cannot be a proof. The only proof available is observational science. We can see that some homosexuals want to marry badly enough that they will marry outside of civil law and forgo the perks of a government license.
Marriage’s primary purpose is to promote the common good. Same-sex marriage does not promote the common good.
Yes, traditional, healthy marriages stabilize all societies. Families provide structure and create order and cooperation amid anarchy and chaos. However, there is no evidence that same-sex marriage will destabilize the common good. How can there be? It has never been tried. I can make solid arguments using studies, statistics, and charts and graphs that polygamy, incest, pedophilia, bestiality, promiscuity, adultery, having children out-of-wedlock, no-fault divorce and couples who shack-up for convenience have a negative impact on society, but cannot point to any social degradation brought about by a same-sex couple who enter into a marriage contract. Most people who marry take the contract pretty seriously, at least at first. My hunch is that by allowing same-sex couples to marry, there will be a statistical decrease in promiscuity among that group, just as there is with traditional marriage. That just might promote the common good. It is worth considering.
Same-sex marriage denies children access to a mother and a father.
Currently it is legal for homosexuals to adopt and have biological children through various circumstances. I do agree that children benefit most from having a mother and father who are married and are not bat-shit crazy, abusive, drug addled, welfare recipients. In a perfect world, all children would be raised in idyllic settings. Children really do need a good mother and a good father, but that is not the society we live in. This is just a guess, but I suspect that there are more children being raised today by crack-whores than by same-sex couples. I apologize for getting profane. Before we use children as a shield against same-sex marriage, we need to actually assess if and how it will change anything, since homosexuals already raise children, and often provide a superior setting over any number of other childhood experiences.
Same-sex marriage is the leading edge of a sexual/moral revolution.
While the sexual revolution has been instrumental in allowing homosexuals to come out of the shadows and publicly express the truth of who they are, open acceptance of homosexuality is actually the trailing edge of the sexual revolution. The sexual revolution’s leading edge has been the devaluation of marriage as the institution of carnal knowledge and procreation, the open access to effective birth-control, the progressing normalcy of children being born out-of-wedlock, and the open access to abortion that occurred over the past fifty years. Having homosexuals reject promiscuity and debauchery in favor of entering into a committed marriage contract is actually counter to the mores of the sexual revolution. At least the way I understand it. The whole sexual revolution has been about reducing all persons to merely sexual objects, things that you can buy, sell, use and discard at whim. The human marriage experience, even when it fails, is a spiritual commitment that transcends sexual gratification.